Texting is one of the greatest tools for flirting and building attraction. Why?
Well, let’s think about what’s involved in creating attraction with someone in the real world. Your smile, smell, confidence, words, timing, clothes, breath, witty remarks, on-the-spot flirting, and the list goes on and on. These are what I call attraction triggers. In the real world, you have to account for every attraction trigger or else you will be unsuccessful in your dating. So if you want to make your dating life easier, you need to start eliminating as many of these attraction triggers as you can. The less attraction triggers you have to deal with the better your chances of being successful in creating attraction and intrigue. Text messaging does just that… it eliminates the majority of the attraction triggers. The only attraction triggers you need to account for are words and timing, and that’s it. If you text the right words at the right time, you can expect to triple or double your success in dating. I’ve seen this happen hundreds of times.
Flirting is the key to getting the ball rolling in the right direction. It’s the unnecessary, but crucial part in building attraction. One of your main purposes when texting is to flirt. I’m going to share with you the 3 most important laws that you must follow whenever you are flirting in your flirty text messages.
Law #1 - Building Suspense - the 10-minute rule
Building suspense is easy and it’s incredibly effective. It amplifies the sexual tension in your flirty text messages. I usually teach this by saying, “never text a women within ten minutes of a vulnerable message.” If she sends a text messages that makes her vulnerable such as, “ya I’ll come over, what time?” or “what are you doing tonight?” you will see better results if you keep her in this uneasy (vulnerable) position for 10 minutes before letting her know everything is cool.
The point is, women love to feel and be emotionally involved in whatever she is doing. It’s a big part of what drives them. So if you can be at the front of that emotional roller coaster she is going to be pulled towards you. It’s really that simple. At times, put suspense in your text messages and you will start moving in the right direction.
Law #2 - Keep it light, fun and un-needy
I imagine everyone reading this article has stressed about sending the right flirty text message. I’m sure many of us have also sent flirty text messages that we wish we could take back and re-write. Both of these scenarios are unnecessary and they only hurt your success with women. In the end she is going to figure out that you are way too involved and needy and it’s most likely going to destroy the attraction. The key is to relax. Understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Send light flirty text messages and then move on and never second guess yourself.
Law #3 - Choose words that build attraction not friendship
Words influence everyone’s life. Words determine where all our relationships go and how strong they are. Now I can’t just give you a bunch of flirty text messages because it takes a lot more to explain the big picture. However, if you want a ton of proven flirty text messages that work, it would be in your best interest to get the eBook “The Ultimate Texting Guide.” It goes into great detail with what flirty text messages women respond to.
I will give you a few flirty tips to get you moving in the right direction. The main one you need to understand is: use text messaging to build attraction not friendship. This is the area that most men fail because they become so used to sending friendly messages to friends that when it comes time to send a flirty text message, they go on auto pilot and send their normal friendly messages. This really destroys your success with women. The key is to be able to discern between the two.
Key point for men: you need to send messages that make women feel something. For example, let’s change those last messages to something more flirty: “Hey honey” “I was just in class and the teacher there reminded me of you, except she was cuter.” “Hey, we’re heading to a party, you should come?” You don’t get on a roller coaster because it’s boring, you get on it because you know you’re going to feel something - she will text you and desire you if you can create that same feeling.
