6 Tips to Help You Get Your Ex Back
Jul 30th, 2008 by T Dub Jackson
When you’ve just had a blowout with your partner and you suddenly find yourself alone and calling him your ex…it’s a rough time where most people just want to find a way to pull the pieces back together and get life back to how it was. Unfortunately, it’s not exactly easy to figure out what to do to make that happen, which is why I’ve written this short list to help you out.
1) Odd as it may seem, one of the first things you need to do is break off contact with your ex for about a month. Resist all urges to contact him! If you don’t give your ex some room, nothing’ll ever work out…he needs some time to miss you! As a bonus, you get some time to clear your head as well.
2) Don’t let Hollywood fool you…sliding into a rock-bottom slump until your caring friends take care of everything for you or your ex calls you up out of the blue to get back together does NOT happen in real life. The only person you can count on is yourself, so find the motivation to rise above your depression and take back your life.
3) Nothing helps to heal like having a good friend or three or six to support you during a rough time like this, so make sure to hang out with people who care about you and make you happy. Just don’t take advantage of their sympathy by whining for hours on end about your breakup and your ex…there’s only so much even Mother Teresa could take before enough becomes enough.
4) Even if it’s forced, you should stubbornly insist to yourself that you can still live your life without your ex in it…at least for that month. Get up and take some steps to pull your life back together and start living it again. Looking great builds confidence, so go through a personal checklist of things you don’t like about yourself and fix them all. After that, show off your rebuilt hotness and “I can do this” attitude by hitting the town with some friends and having a blast. Before long the forced smile will become a real one and you’ll lose yourself in some healthy, carefree fun!
5) Always remember that you can only rely on yourself to get your ex back. He’s not going to change, so the things he needed from you aren’t going to either. Trying to get him back if the relationship’s just going to be the same as before is just a waste of your time and his, as well as risking a lot more emotional damage for both of you. This is a time of change, so don’t be afraid to put some work into yourself…your own personality is your best investment, you always get back 200% of what you put into it.
6) Don’t assume that the battle is over because you’ve gotten him back. You still need to take care to avoid letting the relationship fall through again. The reasons it went south the first time may still threaten it if you’re not careful, and new things are always popping up. Many problems can be anticipated and avoided, but you can’t foresee everything. All you can do is try to support your partner’s needs as you two take on the world.
Remember these tips, and you should find that your entire experience pursuing your ex for another try will be a whole lot easier to get through, and far more likely to succeed. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world when you break up with a loved one…and hopefully this article has helped you to see that. Good luck!
