A Man’s Dating Q&A
Nov 1st, 2008 by Stylelife Academy
Question: I’d like to talk to ladies that I’m attracted to but usually, I lose my nerve. How can I beat this feeling?
Answer: You suffer from a condition known as “Approach Anxiety.” It’s a mental process that begins after you spot a beautiful woman. You get nervous and your feet stick to the ground, like they’re cemented to the floor.
Then, you begin to wonder “What will I say? What will she say? And what if she rejects me?” These negative feelings become so powerfully overwhelming that your whole body fights against you talking to this gorgeous woman.
You should know that this condition is experienced by all males. The good news is there are proven methods for overcoming this affliction. The best rule is to approach within 3 seconds before you can talk yourself out of it.
Question: Why are women usually asking me, “can we just be friends?”
Answer: Your problem is so common that there is a tried and true method for overcoming it. The basic issue is that these women are losing attraction for you and then downgrading your sexual status to that of a friend, instead of a lover.
However, you don’t any longer need to feel as though women aren’t attracted to you. The answer is not to go through life without a girlfriend. Rather, the answer is to heighten her attraction by flipping on her mental attraction switches. The three universal female attraction switches are:
1. “Pre-selection” - or to demonstrate to her that other women desire you. 2. “The Leader of Men” - or portraying to her that you’re a competent man who makes decisions and leads people. 3. “A Nurturer” - showing her that you take care of and think often about the needs of your friends and family.
Once you have flipped these switches, her attraction is no longer a choice but a must. Mastering these attraction switches allows you to fully experience the comforting sensation of being an attractive man.
Question: How can I be sure that I will be able to kiss a woman or go even further on a date?
Answer: This challenge boils down to the woman’s sense of feeling awkward. Women are very attune to their emotions. If your presence makes them uncomfortable they’ll feel that you “aren’t meant to be.” After this happens you’ll NEVER be able to progress on to the physical stages of dating.
If a woman feels appropriately comfortable with you and finds you attractive then she’ll be ready to kiss sooner than later. The best advice for you is that if she gives you several certain signs of interests over the course of a date then she more than likely wants to kiss. So, seize the opportunity.
