Adult Dating - The Pros and the Cons
Feb 28th, 2009 by Gnifrus Urquart
The adult side of the dating industry has always been a topic for discussion. Some people love them, others loath them, some even fear them. They have people talking about morality and social fibre. They are guaranteed to create a debate.
To be honest, I’m not really interested in these debates. I am adult enough (pun intended) to recognise lots of people use them. They definitely have a role to play in our society. As such, I have analysed this sector of the industry so I can advise you of the pros and cons of adult dating sites, the risks associated with using these sites and the potential rewards.
There are many dangers with adult dating sites. The dangers these sites pose to men tend to be different to women, so we have split these up and summarised them below:
The dangers a woman faces from these sites are dangers to her “person”. These sites tend primarily to emphasise open sexuality in dating and therefore there is an expectation that a date will quickly escalate into a sexual encounter. Obviously problems can quickly arise where the expectations of a date differ between the participants.
So when you meet someone, avoid risks. Be safe, don’t put yourself in situations where you can lose control. First meetings should be in public places, develop trust and move from there.
Make sure when you meet a potential in the real world you use your usual dating precautions. That is, only escalate when you feel safe and that it is ok. Trust your instincts. Don’t throw caution to the wind just because you met this person at an adult site.
Men face a different threat. There are many scammers out there hoping to push past a man’s common sense with a picture of a beautiful woman and a promise of something to come. These scammers want one thing, the man’s money. This is the biggest danger men face on adult dating sites, the threat of falling for a scam.
An Adult Dating scam includes the 1900 phone number scams. You can be contacted by someone who wants you to call them on a 1900 number. These phone calls cost you a packet, the scammer actually profits from the phone call itself. They will never meet you, all they want is for you to call so they make some money.
Another breed gets you to join their personal website so you can view her on the webcam. The webcam is pay per view so every time you talk with her, you pay. Once again, she’ll never meet you in real life. Why would she? She’ll stop getting paid if she does.
And then there are scammers who are looking for a way out of their country. Yes, these scammers can be pretty persuasive, but if you are looking for an international introduction, an adult dating site is not the right place to be. Go to a profession international introductions site where the professionals who run it will protect you to some degree from being scammed.
As a man, the best thing you can do to avoid these traps is simply remember why you joined the site. You want to meet some potential partners for some adult real life fun. As soon as a potential partner leads you away from this, move onto the next person. There are millions of profiles at these sites after all.
If you can avoid the pitfalls lurking around adult dating sites, the rewards can be great. Its the same for both men and women in this regard. You can end up getting exactly what you want, when you want it. On top of this, you can have it with the person you intended.
You can’t ask for more than that now can you!
