Creation Of Attraction & The Myth Of Looks, Part 1
Mar 28th, 2009 by Joseph Matthews
A tremendous issue I deal with when it comes to my students is this: the looks issue. Several of them think they are just too ugly to attract a nice looking woman.
It’s an insecurity that comes in all sorts of masks. Some examples:
Some guys think they’re too old.
Some think they’re too fat.
Some think they’re too short.
Some think they’re too ugly.
Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.
But lucky for all of us - this simply isn’t the case.
I want to take a moment and dispell a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.
Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.
All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.
Something to remember: It’s not important to be good looking. It IS, however, important to look good!
There doesn’t seem to be a difference, at first glance. There is though.
Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.
All these appearance factors contribute to “looking good.”
Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.
Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do
It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
For instance - If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.
To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticable.
When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?
So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.
WRONG.
A woman is going to have a different set of criteria for determining what attracts them to us than we do to them. Sure, the physical plays a part of that, but it’s far less important for them than it is us.
A woman bases her attraction more on how a man makes her feel, rather than how he looks. Hence, they are attracted to self confidence and high social standing. She’ll love a man who makes her laugh, and appreciate a man who is good at what he does. These things are as important, or more so, than looks!
Read part 2 to find out more!
