Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1
Jul 17th, 2008 by Vin DiCarlo
Dating can be your best pal.
…OR your big enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s not TRUE!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.
