Dating Tips for Women - Communication in YOUR relationship
May 7th, 2008 by Sarah Love
Have you ever tried to communicate with someone you’re dating about how HE is feeling? It’s not usually too easy to pry feelings from the depths of a man’s mind, underneath all the football, baseball, cars and “man things” that take up the space in there. The thing is - if you are at the point in your relationship where you are wondering what your boyfriend is thinking and feeling about you and your relationship right now… then it might already be TOO LATE.
This is one of the often missed communication problems in blooming relationships. I know from my own experience what a torturous feeling this can be. I cannot imagine that you want to go down this road either.
If it were only about an uncomfortable feeling it wouldn’t matter. However, the fact is, things can get much worse than feeling bad - you could actually lose your man because the communication between the two of you has never existed or has broken down.
Alright - so - let’s take a few steps to bridge that communication gap and start to put your relationship on the right track. Here are a few very simple tips and tricks to knock down that communication barrier.
First of all - you need to quit trying to wrap your mind around what HE is thinking or feeling. If you want to get your relationship or dating life on the right track - you need to start with YOU. You are in complete control of how you think, react and act - so start by focusing on what YOU need to do to focus on your own ideas and communicate your own feelings.
The next step you can take is very simple - start thinking, acting and reacting to situations in a positive way. When we women get hurt or afraid, often we go into “vulnerable mode” - which HE can see is needy or clingy. Stop doing that - react in a positive manner to situations and stop expecting the worst. Expect better things and you will get better things.
Third - start trusting your intuition to tell you what he is really saying. Look deeper than the surface. Trust in your intuition and look at all the signals he is in you. Instead of voicing all your questions, internalize them, keeping them in the forefront of your mind while you look for your intuition to guide you to correct answer.
The fourth dating tip is to learn to correctly interpret your intuition. You may have a sinking feeling that your boyfriend is cheating on you because he is acting sneaky and strange. But perhaps what you come to find out is that he and his planning to take you on a romantic getaway.
The point is - don’t let your insecurities cloud your intuition. You may think something is going on, but in reality, it could be totally opposite of what you think it is. Allow it to play itself out without jumping to conclusions. If you want to read more dating tips and relationship advice, click below.
