Get Your Ex Back With Better Communication
Aug 18th, 2009 by Joanie S Angel
Poor communication kills off many relationships. When people stop sharing, stop talking about things important to them, it damages intimacy. Communication is actually a form of intimacy. Bad communication is often the culprit to end relationships.
If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things you can do to get your ex back. You need to demonstrate that you can be a good listener and communicator.
This isn’t difficult. You can start by calling your ex and sharing yourself honestly. Tell them what it feels like to be without them. Tell them what is in your heart. Be vulnerable and honest. It can touch their heart.
Then, demonstrate to your ex that you are a good listener. Focus on getting them to open up and talk to you. You might inquire: “how do you feel about how I treated you when we were together?”
There are many ways to be a good listener. One is to be quiet and listen. So let them take all the time they need to think about your question and formulate up and answer. Don’t fill the empty space with empty chatter.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like “I’m following you, please continue…” Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another listening skill is to not argue or defend yourself. Let them vent. Don’t interrupt, don’t justify, don’t try to explain you really didn’t mean it. All of that will shut your ex down. All of that will prove that you are not good at communication, which is a perception you are trying to reverse. Just listen til they are done then apologize after they are finished.
There is more to being a great communicator. But just starting with these few things can begin to turn things around. Your ex may see you in a new light, as someone interested in them and willing to listen. This can soften their heart.
