How 3 Counterintuitive Techniques Can Save Your Relationship
Nov 18th, 2008 by Cynthia Williams
Trying to save your relationship can be a very difficult thing to do. There is always the worry that you’ll make one wrong move and lose the person you love forever.
Unfortunately, what feels like the right thing to do, is often wrong. Most times we should follow the ‘counterintuitive path’. When we feel like calling is when we should stay cool instead. When we feel like pouring our hearts out is when we should put a lid on it.
As a warning, the techniques you’re about to discover you may have never seen before and at first glance may look an feel wrong, but have been proven time and again to be effective in even what seems the most complicated situations.
Counterintuitive Technique #1
The first technique is one that should be done “after the fact”, meaning you have definitely broken up. This technique is hard to take advantage of most of the time, because your internal self tells you that you have not yet broken up and you want them back sooo bad.
You need to accept the breakup before you can get your ex back together with you. You need to keep a distance in order for your partner to miss you. They are likely mad or upset that you are constantly on their back trying to get back together with them.
Counter intuitive Technique #2
The second technique is that you need to make sure to cut out any communication. You might even be about to close the browser right now! Stop! This technique might make you mad, but it works like gangbusters. It shows you have accepted the breakup and it’s the only action that shows your ex that you are serious.
If you do not communicate at all with your ex for a little while you allow them to miss you and start to second guess their reasons for breaking up. This is a good time to think back and relax. It’s good for your mental health and allows you to set yourself up for technique three at the same time.
