How Falling In Love Doesn’t Have To Be Devastating!
Oct 24th, 2008 by Dr. Arlene Krieger, PhD
During a recent visit to one of the more popular internet social networking sites, I came across a new post from another member. She seemed lost in her own feelings of being rejected and unrequited love. The article speaks to the core feelings that most people would feel when giving their heart to another and receiveing nothing back in return.
Of course we’ve all felt that sinking feeling. To this day I remember being six years old and being ‘dumped’ for the cutest little blond. Bobby was a fickle and handsome little first grader and I didn’t think I’d ever get over that day. However, we all know that life changes, the days and years go by and some things change others seem to stay the same. Love is not for the faint of heart. To love we must be able to risk our feelings and that means sometimes hanging out there on that limb. We don’t get a warranty with our relationships. So if you’re going to risk your heart, here are life skills to help you along your search for love.
We all want that love that makes us feel like we’re home. Somebody to hold, share in our dreams and disappointments. On the ‘”jouney of love” most often, the prince charmings and sleeping beauty princesses end up to be diamonds in the rough for most of us. So often I hear the phrase, “I don’t want to settle.” My advise to you is Don’t Ever Settle! True love is not about “settling” in order to say that you’re in love or not be alone on a Saturday night.
The below quote was how the woman I spoke of described her heartache: “I am sitting here at my computer waiting as usual for him to email me, I have a feeling he won’t. This is hard to write and as I do the tears start once more, I have cried over him so many times. I met someone who after talking with for several month’s, almost everyday, came to love. Now how silly is that? This is an absolutely perfect example of giving away too much of yourself too soon. In this situation, the woman has never even met her prospective lover, but came to develop feelings for him over the course of several months of internet communication
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