How to Manage Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1
Jul 17th, 2008 by Vin DiCarlo
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your worst adversary.
A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there’s that common phrase, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
One of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.
Dating can take a lot of time when you are single. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, likewise to women.
In fact, it’s their NATURE to take up a man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way there’s less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I’m willing to bet it wasn’t “money,” or “lots of my free time,” or “control over my life.”
It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
That’s so untrue!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.
