How To Talk Dirty To Your Partner In Simple Steps
Nov 10th, 2008 by Duncan Roberts
Although it may well seem to “be a bit too tough to do” or just “something you don’t do” in general, using dirty talk in a relationship can be done with the intention of doing more than just titillating your partners libido.
For those relationships where the sparkle has dimmed or the fizzle has burnt out, learning how to talk dirty to your partner can move you back into the unexpected, adding a slight zing to a relationship that might be in need of a change of scenery, the experience of something new.
The first step though is to decide exactly how you should approach talking dirty to your partner. Get it right and you can sit there with a satisfied buzz. Get it wrong though and you could be sitting there trying to make your partner understand what you were doing and where that all just came from.
First rule of business when talking dirty? Assess what your partner would be comfortable with and don’t deviate from that
Because if you suddenly hit a church going, flower pressing loved one with a string of comments that would make a Playgirl blush - you could very well find yourself sitting in a dark room trying to explain yourself to them and their mother!
Work out what sort of things your partner finds erotic - not lusty - erotic, there is a huge difference here. Think less brazen and more suggestive, half hidden as opposed to fully exposed!
Settle for a level of suggestion that you believe they will not feel threatened by or uncomfortable with and start to slowly, quietly whisper your thoughts to them.
As you talk, move in towards them, allowing them to feel the heat from your body, the smell of your perfume and the warmth of your breath as you almost whisper to them provocatively.
As you talk, carefully watch their reactions. If they relax and sink into what you are saying, then you have the level of erotic v comfort just right. If they tense and try to flee or just lie stiffly and have a nervous look on their face, you have either pitched into talking dirty too strong or you haven’t reassured your partner with the right amount of closeness and intimacy needed for introing something this radical and new into your daily life!
Warm them up - make them aware of just how electric you can be and you’ll find the combination of your closeness and your suggestive talk will really get them straining at the bit to hold you.
So - what are you waiting for?
