Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2 ” When Shes Home.
Jul 31st, 2009 by Octavien Remillard
Sick and tired of leaving the house each day, not knowing if your spouse is going to cheat on you or not? Are you wary of being intimate with her for fear that they have slept with someone else and could be passing something on to you? Does it seem as though everyone knows what your wife is up to, other than you? Sick of the whispering behind hands, the pitying looks? Finish the humiliation by learning how to catch your spouse.
The uncertainty will end when you empower yourself through knowing the truth. Following are some key pointers that indicate what is happening. They include:
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Her urgent need for privacy and to keep everything a secret. Computers are wonderful things but there are ways of getting them to reveal their secrets. If your wife has a lover online, her keeping him secret becomes a great priority to her. Therefore, make mental notes on how she is reacting. Does she move the computer to a more private location? Does she change the passwords to her files? A good way of getting a strong hint that she is fooling around is to sneak up when she is online. Watch her reaction when she discovers you. If she gets mad, you can be pretty certain that she is hiding something (probably someone).
You can bet that her mind is focused on her lovers writings on the screen. For her to become upset when you surprise her or for her to quickly close the browser when she sees you is something you can put on your mental list of signs. What or (more likely) whom is she hiding?
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: She is no longer the same housewife: A good sign that her heart and mind are no longer focused on you is a change in her personal habits. Chat lines become very busy after dark and before dawn. If she comes to bed late or is up very early, it would surely be interesting to find out who she is talking to on a chat line and what the subject of the conversation is. Her talks with her new love interest will tire her out. This will affect her relationship with you and the rest of the family. There will be little time or interest in intimacy or communication with you.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: What happened to the neat and tidy girl you married? If given a choice between talking online to her lover or washing your underwear or cleaning your dishes, which do you think she will choose? The lawn being way overdue for a cutting, clothes piled high by the washing machine and the sink holding two days of dishes are all indicators that her interests lie elsewhere. All of these chores take precious time away from her precious lover, time she is not going to give away. Her love affair will cost you and your relationship dearly. So, poor housekeeping is another sign of something going on.
These are just a few of the major indicators of an online affair.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Finding proof from afar. Absence may make the heart grow fonder but it also sets the imagination on fire. You know darn well that she is lonely and has her normal desires wherever she is working. You cant fault her for being a normal woman but your mind will quickly pick up the slightest hint that she is being unfaithful and look for more evidence or clues. And it might find them. So far away, she knows she stands little chance of getting caught. And you know it, too. She doesn’t have the comfort and reassurance of physical contact with you often. She might try to find it elsewhere.
You hope and pray that you are wrong but something, instinct perhaps, tells you that she is involved with someone else. Faith and trust can only take you so far. Its only a matter of time before your lingering doubts become rabid fears.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Wanting to get even. Many men, after they find the first solid clue that their wife is cheating , jump on the idea of getting revenge, of giving back what they have gotten. A common reaction is to think very seriously of a revenge affair.
It would be criminal to accuse her of cheating and then find out you were wrong. You have to make sure!
Will having sex with someone else take the pain away from you? Will you feel vindicated and that revenge was called for and good and right? Or, will it be one of those things that dogs you for years afterward, one of those things that fills you with burning regret and remorse every time you will think about it? It is not for me to judge a revenge affair. Only you can do that. I am just advising you to think it through carefully as you face infidelity in your marriage.
But if it is something that you are seriously contemplating, have you given it enough thought? How are you going to feel at the moment you are cheating on your wife? How are you going to feel after? Can you live with the knowledge and the consequences of your actions?
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Make certain that you are not misreading her actions. There is too much at stake.
If you are open to new ideas and technologies, you have a good chance of finding out the information you desperately need without your being detected and without there being any chance of her catching on to you. Stay open minded, be willing and diligent. You will either find out for sure that she is cheating or rest in peace to find that you misread her actions. Either way you win.
The answer is closer than you think.
