Managing Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1
Jul 18th, 2008 by Vin DiCarlo
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your big enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
I’ve personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing, women will suck away at your time.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park… now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON’T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, likewise to women.
In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
Managing your time with women can get really tricky. You see, most guys WANT to give women their time. Men are by nature the “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, they think that when a woman spends her time with them, they are “getting” something valuable.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s a LIE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.
