Perfection Does Not Belong in a Marriage
Oct 11th, 2008 by Calvin Sorren
Surprisingly, I do agree that a woman can do it all and have it all. I do not believe this can happen at the same time. The idea of a perfect woman, great mother and ideal wife is not a real conception. This is a fairy tale.
Through many years of meeting women, I have seen many kinds. None of these women has successfully achieved all of these things at one time. It is very possible to be a wonderful mom, great wife and successful in your career, but not possible to maintain all three at once. If you find a woman who claims to do this, she is a liar.
Making choices enables a successful life. The most successful women are the ones who analyze their situations and choices and make priorities. If a women does what her mother did, or what society thinks she should are blind and probably not making the best choices. If your mom stayed at home and you work, or your best friend is a huge business success, while you stay at home, you are not a failure in either predicament. What is right for you is best. You should do what fulfills you and makes you happiest.
Many women have told me that they feel like failures and they are not living up to expectations when they are doing something they would rather be doing the opposite of. They feel unfulfilled and unhappy. I had an email from Emily, who purchased Light His Fire and Light Her Fire, she writes, “Being a good mother was my first priority but for the past few years, I’ve been buried by diapers. Having three children all under the age of five has consumed all of my time. It was my husband’s idea that we get both programs and concentrate on each other for a while. We had begun to feel like strangers. Now it’s time to get back being a wife.” Many letters have come to me saying the exact opposite situation, but same result.
If a woman has a career and is focusing on that, she cannot possible take care of the house and cooking and children as she could if she were home. The same is true if you are concentrating on your husband, you cannot only pour yourself into your children all the time. My program will explain more on this subject. The key is stop trying to be s supermom or superwomen and your guilt will dissipate.
