Relationship with a Family Man
Sep 18th, 2008 by Paul Smith
If you are dating a married man and he has child with previous marriage then get ready to be his children’s new mom. Sooner or later you will be introduced to his children. You will have taken care of his children. It will not be a big problem to date a family man if you follow these tips. You will know how to handle the whole ‘new mommy’ situation.
Just be polite, ask a few questions, but don’t pry too much. And never talk about ’serious’ stuff with the daughter: the meaning of life and all that crap, etc. You’ll freak her out, and she’ll think you’re a weirdo.
Be natural; don’t try to act too ‘cool.’ You’ll just end up falling flat on your face.
You need to be friendly with his children. Don’t be distant, either. Get to know the daughter a little, and then suggest an easy, fun activity that’s low-key. Offer to take her to her favorite store and buy her something small, if she’s a teenager. Shopping is the key to a girl’s heart. If she’s younger, (fewer than 10) suggest something like making cookies, or taking her to the movies. If she seems enthusiastic, suggest something else a few weeks later.
Don’t try to impose/enforce rules. She’ll think that you’re trying to be her mom.
Don’t even jokingly make fun of her. It will make her extremely uncomfortable, and she will close up.
Initially children will not trust you. So make sure if you suggest activities, be extremely careful.
The girl could feel nostalgic about her real mom, whether living somewhere else or dead. She might not want to, for fear of ‘being unfaithful’ to her real mom.
Until the child grows up and perhaps even then, you will never be your partner’s number one priority. Be prepared and don’t take it personally.
At last try to win them with love and care. They will definitely love you and welcome you as their new mom.
