Strip That Fat Tag Is A New Diet Game Where The Loser Wins
Nov 16th, 2008 by Edwin Strong
Today, everything has a ‘tag’ on it as the ‘labelling’ practise supposedly makes it easier for the brain to comprehend a situation. Whether the ‘tag’ is a price to pay,an indicator of importance,a nickname,or derogatory comment.
The tag of ‘fat ridicule’ can take the target down from a great distance. From the schooltime ‘touch game’ where you are always first to be ‘got’,to adulthood when a playful comment or just plain confrontational bullying becomes extremely hurtful. If you are ‘fat tagged’,you are a target figure and ridicule,in it’s major or minor forms,hurts big time.
The dinner guest, who insists on regaling the other friends with intimate details of his or her intrepid journeys into the darkest jungles of dieting and resultant loss of 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat), bears a similar yawn factor as the ‘golfing bore’ detailing the texture and color of the blade of grass that prevented his hole in 10. The ‘fat tag’ comes into play and it may be that guests will avoid you if you persist. Losing weight is very personal and it’s only the visual end result that says it all. People will mostly be polite to you as not to be is impolite but if you are still heavily overweight and get the ‘fat tag’, just watch the dinner invitations dwindle. (may be a good thing actually?)
Everyone understands weight gain and the ease by which it happens. We instinctively admire those that lose weight sensibly. Without hesitation we approve and engage,as the proof of the pudding (so to speak) is standing in front of us. If you have lessened your weight,it shows! It shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. The effect is very much that of a ‘desert flower’ blossoming again as rain falls after a long hot drought. What is needed now is avoid the ‘dessert’ as much as possible with just an occasional visit.
There are times when we are stripped bare or half clothed. Either way, whether it is prior to lovemaking,daily bathing,beach lounging or dressing,we see our ‘bodily’ self. The conscious reaction to seeing oneself could be to:- (1) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (2) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (3) Admire our-self, what we are or what we have physically achieved
This ’self’ is our deep rooted personal identity and how we see our ’self’ holds the keys to our mental balance. It is that important. Seeing our ’self’ as an individual that has hidden depths and strength of character makes us that person. Psychologists can dig deep on this one but if we see our ’self’ as a weak and submissive individual as that’s the easy way,then we will also become that weak person and living with your ’self’ gets harder for it.
If we are ridiculed, no matter if spoken or intimated with bantering love, we mentally record a deep hurt. It is in our private ‘me’ times that the fat-tag hurt most. Despair is quick to fill the pre-sleep and awakening moments and this gradually bleeds into the day unless action is taken. So it is with too much fat, each layer measured in a degree of sadness.
Our self-esteem is badly damaged if we see our ’self’ as anything other than ‘up to scratch’, being our self-measurement against others. We cannot all make millions but we can feel super-good about our ’self’ and what we have achieved. So,where the ‘fat tag’ is concerned, we have to strip the fat and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh heavily on our minds.The trick is not to see our-self as impossibly overweight but possibly overweight. We can deal with ‘possibly overweight’ as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement.
