The Dumb Jock Should Be Your Dating God!
May 10th, 2008 by Chris Benjamin
So, I’m stuck in the truck the other day, in a hellacious traffic jam. I decide to crank up the radio when I hear a song I haven’t heard played in a while called Everything You Want (by Vertical Horizon) come on the air. I know all the lyrics to the song so I’m singing along to the main verses that say “He’s everything you want, he’s everything you need but he means nothing to you and you don’t know why” and BOOM — it hits me.
This is brilliant. These guys are in the know when it comes to the dating world. This song describes what nice guys all over the country go through every day. Most of the dateless guys are not nose picking psychos - they are nice every day guys. Unfortunately they can’t get dates because of the very fact that they are NICE.
Let me lay it out for you in one simple sentence. Nice guys do not get the girls because they are too nice, which means the women do not feel attraction for them. When they look at these men they see a friend and nothing more.
The Vertical Horizon song explains the plight of the nice guy in just a few stanzas. The nice guy is everything a girl wants — he is kind, considerate, attentive, brings her flowers and is genuinely interested in her day. He is everything that most women say they want in a man. But he means nothing to her.
The attractive woman is going to end up dating some muscle-bound no neck jock whose greatest goal in life is to graduate college in the next 10 years and treats her like a shoe. What is she see in him? Attraction.
Now, I am not by any means saying that you should be mean to women or treat them like dirt. What I am saying is that you need to create attraction with a woman from the very start in order to get the girl. You need to get her attention and hold her attention by fanning that spark between you and not letting it die.
So what does a single man do to accomplish this? There are any number of things you can do, but one of my personal favorites is using a little humor combined with roguish behavior (otherwise known as Cocky Comedy). In other words - you need to bust her balls and keep her on her toes at all times. She needs to NOT know what you might do next in order to keep her from being able to tell if her charms are working on you.
What most men do not understand is that letting a woman know that you are attracted to her is the kiss of death in the beginning of a relationship. Nice guys - being nice guys - are going to give a woman compliments and let her know how much they are attracted to her. The dumb jock, on the other hand, plays with her and does not let her see how much he is attracted to her. This keeps her coming back for more.
So keep this in mind the next time you are going out looking for a date. Give her a little taste of that bad boy in you and you will be surprised at how she reacts. You’ll be giving her what she doesn’t even know she wants. Read more about the fatality of the nice guy syndrome by clicking below.
