To Get Your Ex Back Play the Waiting Game
May 7th, 2008 by Molly Laws
You and your partner have split up. You’ve thought about the situation and concluded that a big mistake has been made. You and your ex are made for each other. You are going to get your ex back.
You are certain that the break up is a huge mistake. You have the telephone, text and email all available to you. So what could be more natural than to contact your ex and talk it over.
But this is a critical time. If you try to talk to your ex now, so soon after the break up, you could put an end to this relationship forever. It will be difficult for you but you must have patience, you have to wait.
The Split Happened for a Reason
Remember, your break happened for a reason. Maybe for several reasons. You may not be able to see what caused the break up or if you know the cause maybe it just doesn’t make sense to you so you tend to want to dismiss it as unimportant. But if you go blundering in now, soon after the split, begging to be heard, demanding that your ex listen to reason, your version of reason, you will only make matters worse.
It may be hard for you to do but now is the time for patience, you have to wait.
How long you need to wait before contacting your ex will be a tough decision for you. You have to think back to the circumstances of your break up and try to judge from those how long you should wait.
If you and your ex were having problems for some time before the break up, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger in your relationship or at the time of the break up, wait longer still.
What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.
Use Your Time for Self Improvement
How ever long you decide to wait, use the time wisely. Again, think about the reasons for your break up. Blame can certainly be laid at the door of both you and your partner but you can only control your own actions.
Think about the cause of your break up and your part in it. When the time comes to talk to your ex you need to be able to acknowledge your mistakes and your faults. You need to be able to assure your ex that you are aware of your less attractive qualities and are already taking steps toward improvement.
The best relationships are often the ones that nearly failed. The patience, self-control and practical self-improvement you practice now will pay off with a renewed and better relationship with your ex in the future.
