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The Associated Press has estimated that 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women who are married have had at least one sexual relations with someone other than their spouse. Depending on your vantage point, you are either a potential cheater or someone who thinks your partner is cheating. Either way, three key body language indicators point to adultery. If you are considering an affair or hiding one, you will want to take note of these indicators. If you are a suspicious spouse, these indicators can either confirm your suspicions or help you take your investigation to the next level.

Before we get started, consider an impaired driving checkpoint. Aside from trying to get a whiff of alcohol, the officer will take note of body language before deciding whether to pull the driver over for further investigation. The three key areas any investigator will consider are: eyes, hands, and body position.

Firstly, the eyes. Although this is mostly common knowledge, the lack of eye contact often reveals a liar or cheater. This makes sense because, for our entire lives we have been told that the “eyes are the key to the soul.” As such, liars and cheaters will avert their eyes for fear of being found out. Plus, lying to someone while maintaining eye contact is extremely difficult for the non-seasoned liar. So, when asking a potential cheater about his or her infidelities, take note of their eye movement. If the potential cheater maintains eyes contact when answering a direct question about his or her behavior, it is less likely that an indiscretion (or several) has occurred. For the possible cheater, maintaining eye contact is of great importance when and if you are ever confronted by your partner. For the suspicious spouse, understand that most often than not, the answer to your suspicions can be answered through direct eye contact (or lack thereof!).

Second, the hands. Whether you are playing poker or are planning on poking a player, you do things subconsciously when you get nervous. In most cases, nervousness surfaces through the hands. Whether it’s tapping a finger, biting nails, or fidgeting with another body part or item, your hands reveal a lot about your level of honesty. As a cheating spouse, take note of how you use your hands when interacting with others, particularly in situations where you find yourself being overly nervous (tense meetings with the boss for example). As a suspicious spouse, take note of how your spouse’s behavior changes when you question him or her about their possible affair.

The third and final indicator is body position. Since most liars and cheaters don’t intend on hurting their spouse, they try to put subconscious padding between themselves and their spouse, especially when discussing the possibility of an affair. In some cases, this might be something as simple as shifting your body so that it is not “square” with your interrogator’s. Another common way to add padding (or a screen as it is also known) is by placing items between your body and your victim’s; consider why bankers and lawyers usually sit behind a desk when they interact with others. Cheaters and liars might also put their hands to their neck or cover other vulnerable areas as subconscious “protection” from their lies. As a cheater, be conscious of these hard-to-notice technique when you are cornered by your spouse. As a suspicious spouse, watch for your spouse’s use of padding or screening when you confront him or her.

If you consider yourself a cheater or a potential cheater, you should take care to memorize the items discussed in this article. As a next step, visit the most-common adult dating websites and learn just how common infidelity really is… in your geographic area! You will be surprised to learn just how many folks in your city or town are as curious or interested in discretion or having an affair as you are.

Alternately, if suspect your spouse of cheating, the items discussed here will provide some insight into your spouse’s infidelity.

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