What Happens After You Are Taught About Seducing A Woman: Love
Nov 22nd, 2008 by Daryl Duke
A lot of guys will want to learn the skills of a pick-up artist in order to meet plenty of women. Their motivation might be to take their seduced women to bed or to have a short-term relationship with them. But the one situation that all men find themselves in, no matter talented they might be when it comes to seducing a woman, is that they fall in love.
The possibility of falling for the woman they seduce is often ignored by student pick-up artists. Either they see love as something that will not happen to them, or they will make sure it does not happen to them. But it will happen. It’s inevitable. Ask Neil Strauss, the author of the non-fiction best-seller, The Game. Better yet, read the book and the first scene you will find how love has rendered one of the book’s leading characters nearly crazy! Bottom line is that love happens to all of us, whether we plan for it or not.
The problem that all men have, whether they are into seducing a woman or not, is how to keep that woman they love. Nearly all men who have met their “love” by picking them up and employing the tactics learnt through books or live courses do not possess the skills necessary to maintain that relationship. The reason is simple; they have naively bought into the alpha male ideology. They know how to be self-centered, but they don’t know how to appreciate their woman. And even if they are intelligent enough to realize the importance of appreciation, they are often able to maintain an appropriate level of appreciation.
The thing these books and courses are great at is teaching us how to seduce. But they do little when it comes to showing us where to take a relationship beyond the initial stages. So we move from “new and exciting” and eventually reach that comfortable stage. This is where the challenges begin because we feel there is little work left to do to keep the “magic” of the relationship going. This is such a bad mistake, however. Although it’s nearly impossible to uphold the same level of excitement that landed us this great catch, there more tactics we need to learn that will help our woman love us… for the long-term.
The first thing we can do is learn more about appreciation. While both men and women crave appreciation, neither of us is good at doing it. This doesn’t need to be complication or elaborate, either. From thanking her for a small, random gift or showing appreciation for even a failed attempt at dinner, appreciation is vital. Once we stop appreciating, we run the risk of making her feel neglected and she will look elsewhere for this.
Another tactic that men can use is incorporating exciting elements in their relationship once they reach the comfort level. This doesn’t mean some form of adventure every other night or even every other week, but the excitement of an impromptu adventure will keep the relationship fresh.
Transforming from a man who is great at seducing a woman to one who is a pro at keeping a woman happy can be painful. But the long-term prospect of love often makes the pain well worth it. See, if you really love your woman, you have no choice but to change. Just remember the person she fell in love with — the exciting, adventurous guy who picked her up and made her feel like a million bucks. Keep that in mind and realize that you need to shift gears, and you may just avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists encounter when it comes to their own relationships.
