What You Should Never Do Before Meeting Your Foreign Fiance
Jan 29th, 2009 by Art Saborio
I know you have probably heard this a hundred times, but never send money to someone you have not met and always meet your fiance many times before trusting her with anything.
Thinking of marrying someone from another country? Then keep in mind she will need to see your entire life, including bank accounts, tax returns etc. She will need to carry and present these kinds of documents to the embassy officer during her interview. So dont expose your life until you are one hundred percent sure about her.
There are a lot of stories of people trusting too much when dating someone from another country. If you do a Google search on Blacklisted Russian Women or Blacklisted Ukrainian Women, you will find over a million sites on just this topic.
What does the word Blacklisted Russian Woman or Blacklisted Ukrainian Woman mean? It is when a woman from a country other than the USA is reported as scamming money or visa help.
What you can expect from someone scamming you?
A scammer will have an immediate attraction to you. She will often immediately start using words like, I love you or lead you to believe she is ready to marry you. Women that do this are great at making you feel like you are the only man for them. Yet in reality they are speaking to others.
The more guys they can talk to at one time the more potential for making money.
Ask yourself this question. If you met someone for the first time here in the USA and she started to tell you within the first few days of meeting you that she loved you, would you feel comfortable? Most people would say no. So why would someone from another country make you feel any different? You have not met her and you do not really know her true intentions.
A major red flag is the girl wanting to come visit you in the USA. These girls are not dumb. They know the laws better than you do. They know that it is impossible for them to come to the USA for just a visit. All she wants is for you to send her the money to pay for a visa that does not exist. She gets the money and you get scammed. If you are not sure of this, then just pick up the phone and call the USCIS 1-800-375-5283. They will be happy to explain the laws to you.
Tourist Visa to the USA: After meeting my fiance for the fifth time, I thought it would be easy to try for a B-2 tourist visa to visit the USA. I worked hard at gathering all the needed documents. Yet it only took a few minutes for the embassy to deny her tourist visa. So I dont recommend wasting time or money on it.
If the girl you are talking to starts to mention the need for money in any form. It is time to walk away. Ninety-nine percent of the time, she is a scammer. Best thing to do is tell her you dont want to talk about money so soon and see what happens. Most of the time the girl will disappear or she will start communicating sporadically. Since you are no longer the catch of the day, she will move on to easier prey.
Now it is hard to know for sure, but often times the pictures she sends you are not really her. They can be anyone. You really do not know if that is the true person behind the picture. I have heard stories where the person behind the picture was a guy.
There is a limited time for scammers to get money out of you. Usually after one month they disappear. They know that after a month it is very likely that you will find out about them.
After you send them money, they completely disappear. There will be no more communication and your money will disappear with them. No investigation will ever be done. No one will care except for you. The typical method of sending money is through Western Union. All these scammers know the ins and outs of Western Union.
Remember this is not the USA this is another country and corruption is the name of the game.
These women are really good at what they do. They will have stories or answers to all your questions. It is their profession and they are almost impossible to catch. They will go out on a limb if it means they have a chance of getting some of your money.
To summarize, make sure you meet your fiance many times before trusting her with your money or personal information. One mistake can cost you a lifetime of grief. Keep in mind that although your girl might be showing these signs of being a scammer, she might be legitimate. In my next article I will show you how to know for sure if she is real or not.
