Winning An Ex Back - How Not To Do It
Sep 18th, 2008 by Marc Sandford
After a break up, many people feel that their life as they knew it is coming to an end. This panic will often cause them to do impulsive actions in order to win their girlfriend back. This will often do more damage than good.
The fear can commonly make them act against their best judgement. However their best judgement isn’t always correct. This is because it either would take a great deal of personal experience or a lot of research to truly know what they should do.
Here are some classic mistakes to steer clear of in your efforts to win your girlfriend back:
1.) Be careful about apologizing excessively. Admitting to your mistakes in a mature fashion is good. But don’t allow yourself to get carried away by assuming all of the blame for everything that went wrong.
Unless you truly are at fault for everything that’s gone wrong, doing this will erode your personal worth to her.
2.) Never speak badly about the ex girlfriend. Less than nice things about her can get blurted out when you’re under a lot of stress. It may make you feel better because you’re venting off a little steam.
Depending on who and how many people overhear, that little slip of the tongue will find its way to your ex. Getting her back will be difficult as it is. Don’t make it even worse.
3.) It’s late at night and you’re feeling an intense need to give her a call. You’re feeling very lonely and maybe have had a drink or two. Try your best not to phone her.
There are two very good reasons for not giving her a call. One’s that it is an impulsive call that was made when you’re feeling emotionally strung out. It’s any one’s bet as to what you might say.
Another reason is that you’ll seem desperate and needy. Unless she is really turned on by those qualities, it’s a bad idea.
4.) Stay clear of arguments about the break up. Doing this sets you back in a number of ways. Firstly, the two of you need to cool off some and incessant arguing just fans the flames.
Likewise, arguing against the breakup can flip you into anger mode or pleading mode. Being angry with her won’t intimidate her, it’ll make things worse. Pleading is going to make her wonder why you are so desperate.
Desperation is equivalent having no confidence, being dependent, and being too easy to get. These are not the traits of the ideal man.
Don’t forget that half of the battle is not making the mistakes that will damage your odds at winning your ex back. You can do this by not permitting yourself to be overcome by anger, panic, or the other extreme emotions that commonly occur during a break up. Avoid any of the thoughts and situations that stir up these destructive emotions and start working your plan to win your ex back.
